Stop critiquing and start doing!

by BJ on March 31, 2015

Just felt like getting this off my chest…because I've noticed as i have been working harder on my journey to transform myself and my business to new heights, it seems like more and more people start to critique me…and some even have done it out of hatred, envy, jealousy, and spitefulness…it's obvious I can sense it miles away…

I appreciate the “critiques” but I don't appreciate if it comes from a ‘hater' / blamer / complainer mentality. That turns me off big time because that's one of the BIGGEST pet peeves I have with people in this industry.

People who blame and complain.

Those are the EXACT type of people who don't get any results in their journey online.

…Listen we've all been there. I've been there as well…where I would complain about this or that…but that doesn't do any good for you at the end of the day.

Stop critiquing and start doing.

Stop critiquing and start looking at yourself.

Here's a great quote from the bestselling book of all time…

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”

Yeah, I know that I got stuff that I can fix here and there in my business…

but let me turn it around for you…

…what about you?

Yeah my audio may not be the best…thank you for your feedback…but do you have a youtube channel…where are your videos?

Yeah my newsletter may have links that don't work but do you have a newsletter?

Yeah I may have a high ticket program that is priced high…but do you do have your own high ticket offer?

You get my point?

Here's an interesting thing I have learned…

…I learned that my once followers end up hating on me…because it's easier to BLAME someone than to look at oneself, take responsibility, and DO something about it…

(and some realize they were wrong about it and humbly move forward…)

it's easier to blame the teacher…

than to put your hands in the dirt over and over again and DO THE WORK…

they may say they are critiquing but I'm being honest, I can sense the envy/anger towards me in the way they communicate or don't communicate to me…i'm not stupid…i have a good SENSE when it comes to the REAL situation…

so I've learned that even my followers/even students end up as haters too in this weird journey online…

people who are successful have their own problems too…people want to use you for their own gain…they may think i don't know but i see it all over the place…i can sense it…who is real or not…

and hey, i'm guilty of that too in my previous journey online…and because of the fire i went through, i have more respect for the people who are doing big in their journey…a new respect for them now…i don't care if others hate on them or complain about the top guys in this industry…they are all there not out of luck but out of hard hard hard hard hard hard work….trust me, it takes HARD WORK to get to the top…and i'm doing this hard all the way EVERY SINGLE day to one day get to that level and beyond one day…one step at a time…

so to hear little complaints from anyone who is not doing anything IS INSULTING and PERSONAL…because you know what, i put my heart and soul into this…and it is offensive to hear people who complain or blame…when they don't realize what it takes to give what I give them on a consistent basis through my videos, blogs, newsletters, products, etc which TAKES A LOT OF WORK…it may look easy to you but it's not…it's DAILY grinding…

it's easy consuming.
but it's a different story CREATING.

if you knew the behind the scenes story of me or any successful person out there who does A LOT MORE behind the scenes to provide consistent value to you (regardless if you think it's not enough or this or that), you'd have a little bit more respect before mouthing off this is not enough or that…

if you understand this…then i can forgive you…but i'm human so i don't forget…i'm a human being too…i'm also an artist in many ways so i am sensitive to what others say…and ESPECIALLY after i put in 10,000 hours into this craft of internet marketing, it is OFFENSIVE…if you were in my situation and some guy who didn't put one ounce of what you went through came out of nowhere to complain about this or that, it would be offensive to you as well…

anyhow, just felt like posting this because I want to tell it like it is in my channel…

I'm a nice guy generally but don't take my niceness as a sign of weakness…

I stand up for myself and for my rights and won't take no BS from anyone who tries to put me down for the heart and soul I put into my work in my products, in my videos, in everything I got with the best of my abilities at this current stage in my life…

thank you for your “critiques”…i DO admit they all have a point…you all have a point…and I take it and learn from it and get better…

but when you do with an “attitude”…then CHECK YOURSELF…look at the speck in your OWN eye as well.

BJ

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mark April 1, 2015 at 9:49 am

BJ, I have only one critique and then praise. The critique is you don’t respond as you say you will , that’s my experience. That said; I have been a sales manager, owned a multi-million dollar company with sales as the primary income generator for thirty years and sold multi millions of dollars in product and labor. I had many many sales people work for me over the years. Here is what you are seeing. There are those who get all pumped up to go out and sell, they know they can do it. It doesn’t matter in what business it is the action, reaction and resulting mindset from those things that makes or breaks people in the sales world. SALES ISN’T FOR THE MAJORITY. It takes a strong person who can stand rejection 80% of the time and persevere. That is not the ratio in the population my friend. 80% of people can’t deal with rejection and regard it as failure. This is what separates the sales professional from the experimenter/ dreamer. So before people dump in your plate they need to be honest about WHO THEY REALLY ARE. I have a small test that is fool proof for determining if your the sales type or not. “Decide on something that you really want to have or do. Ask out that gal you have been afraid to, ask for the raise you want, anything where you have a chance of failure. We all are positive and elated when she goes out with us or we get the raise. Its how you react to not getting what you want that determines your sales staying power. If she says no are you disappointed and going to try later under different circumstances or do you think, “she didn’t like me I knew it, I should have never asked, now I will never have another chance with her? Or “I’ll ask for the raise again later or is it, I’m quitting this job as soon as I find another one, I hate this guy? I bet you can determine who should be in sales. Test yourself. Don’t waste your money, peoples time and then dump on them because you went into something you had no business trying. BJ is a one per-center in the sales business. He has the motivation, drive and mental attitude to push through to his goal while trying to teach others at the same time. As for you BJ don’t let the frustration with those who should have never tried drag you down. Realize and accept you are the exception, realize they are the norm, realize those who have success were suited to succeed due to their mental make up. If you paint a Picasso on a pig it will be a waste of time as soon as the pig sees a mud puddle. However if you paint it on a block wall it will last and be beautiful. Rejoice in your block walls BJ and realize when other roll in the mud, “it was just there nature.”

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BJ April 1, 2015 at 10:04 am

Mark, I appreciate your wisdom…thank you for your words of encouragement and if I didn’t respond, it was in no way personal. Honestly, I get messages all the time and modeling other successful people in the industry, I structure my business in a way where I DO answer those who purchase all my products (go all in) to buy all the core products inside my products such as Video Commissions and then purchase my mentorship program OR those who pay for my high ticket consulting. (It’s just my model that I have learned from meeting multiple people in this industry).

But on a public platform like my blog or youtube I can answer here and there because it’s like answering everyone at once…it does save a lot of time compared to one on one emails. Hope that clears it up and again, I appreciate the wisdom of your words ESPECIALLY because I can sense you do have real life experience of going through the fire yourself from all those years of being in business yourself. I agree with you that sometimes you can’t change certain people or their perspective (i heard the term don’t change your act…change your audience by another marketer in this industry)…By the way, each of my blog posts doesn’t represent all of me…that is just ONE MOMENT of my life…after I post it, I feel better and now I’m good. Either way, I’ll take your input as a way to just keep on keeping on…I’m growing as well…thanks!

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